Getting Out Our Dreams…

You might have at one point or another come across this slogan…but if not, then you can from today say you’ve come across it. G.O.O.D is the imprint of an egomaniac whom we’ve come to adore or at least hate more over the years…Easy to figure out of whom I’m talking about, right? You can call him someone who is full of himself, a megalomaniac, an arrogant idiot, a jerk, a jackass, or whatever adjective you may (which might be true to some extent), but one thing that cannot be doubted or undermined though is his passion for the often ridiculous dreams he has. In a society like ours where conventions are applauded, which extends to music and “art” – two major things he’s passionate about, he breathes for the sole purpose of breaking those molds. He’s almost become the first to take a particular route;  and then everyone else follows suit.

Me thinks by now you should really know who I’m talking about….and if you don’t, well I’m sorry!

Now what does this have to do with this blog? It should be clear since this is a blog about DREAMS after all. As I said in the post before this (click, you’re welcome),

Life is too beautiful not to dream. This is the purpose of this blog, to document those dreams, and the deeds that are being done as I journey to achieve them. However, I am interested in not only documenting mine, but others’ as well

So, it is in light of this that I’ve decided to create a section on this blog called G.O.O.D which would document the dreams of others…since I’m not the only dreamer here. It would be a great delight to share the dreams of others, and the deeds they’ve done (or are doing) to achieve them.

“You, you may say  I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one I hope some day you’ll join us And the world will be as one” – John Lennon

So be on the lookout for amazing friends of mine who will come here to share with you the things they are passionate about. For the most part, it’ll ease me from having to bother you guys with what I have to say (what a relief that is!)

And if you’re passing by here, and think you would like to share things of which you’re very passionate about – your dreams!, send me an email @ ofdreamsanddeeds at gmail dot com so we can share with the rest of the world, and they’ll hopefully find your deeds towards achieving your dreams helpful enough to emulate as they journey to achieve their dreams as well.

We are ready, to Get Out Our Dreams. The world is ready to hear us (or at least I think this enormous cheering sound is indication enough that it’s time for your voice to be heard…so speak on!)

Oh, The Maze!

This post (now edited) was originally posted here —-> It was meant to highlight how I employed this principle below:

In his book, “Weird Ideas That Work” (which I just got in the mail a few days ago, *but only skimmed through) Robert Sutton says that we should reward our failures and successes but punish inaction.

June 25th, 5:07 PM

Today was very interesting. I don’t want to ramble as much as I would love to, partly because I don’t really have much time to post this…and I really want to post it now, it’s been sitting in the draft folder few days now.

Maybe these tweets will give an idea what it’s basically about!

Can’t find the location I’m supposed to go but still 2nd guessing asking for help smh

— Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

Okay that wasn’t so bad…I asked, but if I don’t get it this time…I think it’s homebound — Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

Whoo…and I hate directions. But I asked and I might just get where I’m going…hopefully. — Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

Ahaha, this is not funny yo. Now battery’s low…

— Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

#EpicFail I didn’t get to where I’m going. Gonna go get me some ice cream & head home. -> Reward your successes & failures, punish inaction.

— Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

Well, because my failure today, I at least got a pint of ice-cream out of it, which might not have happened otherwise… #worthit — Ayo Falomo (@aeWHYoh) June 25, 2012

If it still doesn’t make sense, maybe these will?

@aeWHYoh the maze… — Michelle A. (@MiiChiLe) June 25, 2012

@aeWHYoh how fascinating!

— Michelle A. (@MiiChiLe) June 25, 2012

What exactly happened today, and what is the maze? How fascinating? What does these all mean?

July 12th, around 6 PM

I was at the Menil Collection, a very nice museum here in Houston where I live. In the midst of all the awesome artworks, paintings, drawings, and all the other incomprehensible art forms in there which I found, one stood out. It was Frank Stella’s “Avicenna”, which I sadly now can’t find a very good picture of online. This one below is pretty much close to what it was. It’s a work by him as well. It reminds me of a maze…and or like Michelle tweeted, “the maze”

I’m sure you’re still wondering what in the world “the maze” is! Patience dear, patience!

Well, long story short:

June 25th, …AM till something PM.

Today, I tried to get somewhere that I really wanted to go (I almost changed my mind about going) but couldn’t get there! I tried and tried to find the location AND couldn’t. I was on the phone with the person I was to meet, and he kept directing me, over and over again…AND still I didn’t get it. I actually never do! I was circling the whole neighborhood…on my feet, which are pretty much sore at this moment. Picturing me with a sad face wouldn’t be questioned, but rather it’s inverted, i.e I have something like this –> 🙂 on my face …

I applied Robert Sutton’s rule and got myself a pint of ice cream. So, not a bad day altogether.

Now for the maze, its history can be traced back to my experience at LeaderShape (remember how I said every post on here is going to refer to my experience there? Read the ABOUT section if you don’t know what I’m talking about). During one of the challenge courses, we were blindfolded, and told to find our ways out of a maze made of  ropes that kind of interlocked at some points. We were told that if we needed help, we should just call for it anytime. I was thinking to myself what do I need help for? All I need to do is find my way out of the maze, simple enough! The trick though was that there was really no way out…the only way out being for one to ask for help.

I was one of the two last persons to get out in the group of about 12 or so people that walked the maze!

All I said was (frustrated at this point) “Okay, Jeff can you help me?”, and he removed my blindfold…only to see everyone else standing outside!

As you would have guessed, I was furious!

To get out, all I had to do was ask for help! But…

Ask for help? Like, really?” That’s what you have to do in order to get out?

And the “how fascinating” part? It’s what we learned (at LeaderShape) to say whenever we made any mistake!

So, you can join us too, and stop taking yourself too seriously…Failure is part of life. Learn from em, and move on. Quit sulking!

Possibility; It’s an Art

The dictionary defines Art thus:

the quality, production, expression, or realm, according to aesthetic principles, of what is beautiful, appealing, or of more than ordinary significance.

It describes Possibility as:

the state or fact of being possible; anything that is possible

Combining both terms, as “The Art of Possibility” what we get is this:

The production, according to aesthetic principles, of what is beautiful, appealing, or of more than ordinary significance of anything that is possible!

Now ain’t that something? But the question is, what exactly is this art of possibility? I believe from the analysis above, it has to do with the fact that you can produce what is beautiful, because in the strictest sense, anything is possible.

Everything I talk about on this blog will relate back to my experience at LeaderShape, and this for me is definitely one of the highlights of that experience. Without it, this blog would definitely not be in existence. And I’d assume it’s a good thing that it is in existence. You can read the About to get a grasp of what I’m speaking of.

So enough with the preamble….

We were told at the first day of the retreat that LeaderShape’s vision had a lot to do with two major things, namely: leading with “integrity”, and “a healthy disregard for the impossible” – I translated this to mean “endless possibilities”. And to be honest, everything we did had something to do with those two terms. Now, I am a dreamer, so the endless possibility stuff attracted me, though in a very subconscious way. Now, I am also a self-conscious self-doubter, which means that I keep track of my failures, and disregard or fail to acknowledge my successes (most times, I don’t even see them at all). The failures and limitations are more glaring. Now, that chain was what the “healthy disregard for the impossible” was meant to break, and trust me it did break it.

We were told to think of a vision, and imagine that there was nothing stopping us from achieving it. We were told to dream, with no barriers…we were told to not see the sky, let alone see it as a limit. And I took the bait…

I refused to listen to the voices in my head that tried to dissuade me from dreaming. The calculating part of me nudged me to start thinking of my vision in terms of how “practical” or “reasonable” it is, but what I soon found out was that it’s unreasonable to weigh capacities in this realm of “endless possibilities”. Those words didn’t make sense anymore, everything was possible!

Having a vision allows one to be vulnerable. For me, it turned me to a little child…I was able to actually dream. Things I had told myself I wasn’t capable of doing, in an instant resurfaced, and I gained a renewed strength to pursue lost passions.

That my friends is what is called the Art of Possibility.

As with any type of art, there are techniques to be followed. Techniques are guidelines, and not hard and fast rules to be follwed. They only are there to give you a basic framework to work with, and after that, you can decide to in the metaphoric sense “step out of the box”, and break the rules. Many exciting forms of art have been produced by breaking the established rules. So what does this have to do with possibility?, you say.

Well, we’ve established that Possibility is an art, and it definitely comes with its own techniques that are meant to guide towards that realm.

It is in that light that I introduce you to this:

Benjamin Zander was one of the people we learned from and about at the LeaderShape retreat. His passion, and high energy for life is infectious. I, like most other people, thought he was crazy due to his highly optimistic approach to life. Life isn’t always that great, the cynic in all of us screams. However, in the realm of possibility, life can be…and that is what he aims to teach using humor, and other techniques.

So, on to those techniques.

Humor, as mentioned above is one of them. He calls it the Number 6 Rule: “Stop taking yourself damn too seriously”. Relax, enjoy life and when you make mistakes, throw your arms in the air and say “How fascinating”. (He’s crazy, I told you). This brings you out of what he calls the downward spiral, where you are in a rut of hopelessness and despair..no bueno.

“It’s all invented” is also another tool he talks about. This involves realizing that life consists of games that are invented, which can be recreated based on how we choose to tell our individual stories…and rather than playing a game of success/failure, where you are keeping scores, like me of how many times you’ve failed, you can decide to invent and play a new game. He calls that new game, I am a contribution game.

Quieting the voice in your head is a good one too, and it ties in with humor. I’m sure you’re familiar with those nagging voices, “you’re no good”, “stop dreaming, and wake up..smell the thorns on the roses” (yeah, they hardly point you to the beautiful things)…and it goes on. What he tells you to tell those voices is to say, “Thanks for sharing. I value your input, but I’m busy”

Others include, giving an A (which means that you should go ahead and award A grades to yourself and others, without consideration to merit or whether they/you “deserve” it or not), connecting with others in the sense of a community/collaboration, leading from any chair in the room…and the list goes on.

What this means is that you pretty much need to get the book…

I’ll end on this note, with a review of the book that captures the content of my heart , as written by Margaret J. Wheatley, Author of Leadership and the New Science, Coauthor of A Simpler Way, and President, The Berkana Institute.

The Art of Possibility makes a humane and brilliant future possible. I truly want everyone to read this book – it opens us to the treasure of our great human capacity for creativity. These practices are simple yet extraordinarily effective for tapping into the unlimited energy of the human imagination”

Okay, and now to really end for real… I hope it’s not cheesy to say that I came across this song from a commercial by Kraft cheese (get it?), and it represents all that possibility is. Music speaks for me when words can’t, honestly. So, press play, and I’ll see you beyond the skies!